*Note...this blog will probably be taken down as soon as any admin or mod reads this because I'm speaking the truth. If this is still up, continue to read this. If you read my previous blog, you will know I was a member of this site for several years. Recently, I came back after being unbanned for whatever reason. However, the admins of this sited decided to ban me once again just because they felt deceived. Apparently, you aren't allowed to go to other chat sites because they feel like they are being betrayed lol. Like whiney, little babies, they have gone to other sites and tried to have them shut down because they can't handle competition. This is just one reason why I choose to not come in as much or at least when I was able to. This site, as I mentioned in my previous blog, treats their long time chatters like garbage just because you go somewhere else to chat? Who really cares? That's like telling people they can't talk to other people on phone because you're not talking to them in HERE. People really do need to grow up and realize have friends elsewhere. Since when is one NOT allowed to go where they want and talk to whomever they want? Seriously? This is one major reason why so many people have left this site because of the owners. They can't stand the fact that people talk to other people at other sites. Want to know WHY people do that? Because they are former chatters as well from here who have been banned for the same reason or even dumber reasons. If you feel like this site treats you fair, that's fine. But just a word of advice again...don't take it too serious and don't get too comfortable here. Before you know it, you will be banned because of the cry babies that run this site. If they never unban me again, that's fine. I actually have a life outside this place unlike many that come here!!
I am writing this blog to inform any new users that may come in to this chat room and are reading this about my experience at this site. Hopefully I can give a clear perspective of things without personal reasons getting in the way. Also, since they will probably read this blog and delete it, along with this account, I hope I will get everything that is needed to be said. I WAS a member here for over 3 years until recently when the owners and admins/mods decided they wanted to change the rules of the chat room. Apparently, I did something that I shouldn’t have, even though they didn’t really give me a fair warning. Yes they do look down on you if you go to another chat room for whatever STUPID reason that is. I entered the chat room and boom, I was banned without a reason from the Admin that was in there (StrGaze45). She may or may not have been the one that banned me but that doesn’t matter. The point is I feel that I have been used and betrayed by not only her but other members of this chat site. Over the years I have noticed drastic changes in the way things were run. People were let off the hook when they shouldn’t have and others were banned for no reason or any fair warnings. This site, the people that run and operate it, only care about themselves and NOT others. I feel I had done nothing wrong to violate the rules of the chat room, although I do have an idea as to why they did it. As I mentioned earlier, evidently going to talk to others in other chat rooms and having a freedom of speech is not a right in here. Yet, this reason is NOT outlined in the new rules that they have decided to FORCE upon the chatters in the Voice Chat. I never spammed the room or told anyone else about another chat room. Others have voiced their disprovals of these new rules, yet nothing happened to them. Some have even begged and pled to stay in the room, which is not fair. If I wasn’t given a second chance, why should others? Just because they tend to kiss the authorities ass to get what they want? To sum this all up, if you are thinking about joining this site, just know that you will be used and betrayed in many ways that you never thought were possible. People can be very conniving and vindictive in here, just to get what they want. They will tell you one thing but then turn around and stab you in the back. Just be careful and DON’T take this room serious at all. As for the rest that are already members here, some of you I thank you for your friendship and loyalty, as I will never get to talk to you again because of this dumb incident. Anyone of great importance know where to find me to talk. Others in here, I will not miss you at all due to the ways you have treated not only me but others who have come and gone over the years. I hope you think about the stupid crap that is going on and live with the guilt of ruining others’ fun just to get what you selfishly want.
I'm sure almost everyone has heard the old saying "Time Heals All." This may be true for some people, while it doesn't apply to everyone. Some wounds may never heal and some do. You may not feel like they will but give them time. Personally, I have felt like I would never move on and heal from things I have encountered in life but I have. You just need to be patient and things will work out in the end. In addition, as the saying goes, "when one door closes, another one opens." You just have to allow it to happen. If you go through life thinking things will only get worse, you will never get anywhere and people will see this as a weakness. They will then not want to be around you if you continue to see the negative side to everything. For some, it takes others to make them happy, while other people only need themselves to find comfort in their lives. For me, I have found that writing blogs like this one have helped me to take my mind off of things and clear my head. It has given me a chance to get things off my mind and allow others to share their opinions, which I appreciate. I'm not sure if any of this makes sense, since I may have contradicted myself several times but hopefully I have made my message clear. When things begin to look bad, don't give up. Just keep going and you will see things will get better and the wounds will heal. It can only make you stronger as it did for me.
As time has gone on, I have been through it all and have experienced every emotion. I have made friendships and been in relationships. Some were horrible, some were good or ok, while a select few have been great (which I have right now). You just have to surround yourself with people who will make you feel good. I know it may be hard at first or at times, but if you stay with it, everything will work out. You just have to choose what path you want to go down. You have to be cautious about who you meet, the relationships you form and what you tell them. Some may seem like they are your friends but they end up turning on you and hurting you just to get what they want. There are people in here that won't stop until they get just that. They don't care about your feelings as long as they are happy. In addition, people will say things that they think are funny, which they may be to them and others, but they are hurtful to others. The words of others can cause you pain, which in turn, can cause pain to others. You will get upset and begin to neglect those who actually care about you, which is not fair. Still with me? Ok..lol. This goes back to being cautious in chat. Even though I've been here for 2 years, there are people that I've become close to, yet I have not let my guard down for. People will or at least try to destroy your relationships, whether they are friendships or BF/GF relationships. They don't care. They will go to extreme measure to get what they want because they figure they don't know you and you don't know them...who cares? The point in all of this is that people do cause harm to others with or without realizing it. They think it is all in fun and mean nothing by it. Yet, you should be cautious not to offend anyone. Stop and think before you speak, out of respect to the other chatters. If you know that if a fellow chatter is with someone, don't be persistent and asking to be with them or continue flirting with them. Yes, this may be a gray area, meaning that one person may see it as being friendly and having a good time. Yet another person will see this as you trying to take someone or something away from them that they truly care about and will get offended. JUST BE CAUTIOUS!!!
Disclaimer: I may contradict myself along the way so bare with me lol. With that said, this is my experience. Some may only know me as E23, while others know me as E21 as well. I have been on this site for about 2 1/2 years or so and have just about seen it all. Originally, I came here to escape reality and forget "the real world" for a while. However, as time went on, this has become my world. There have been moments of pure happiness, laughter, and excitement. Then there are the moments of guilt, sadness and regret. Just because this is a chat room doesn't mean people don't have real feelings and emotions in here. We all come in here to have fun and relax, yet, there are a select few who come in and ruin it for everyone. I will be the first to admit that I have been one of those people who have taken the fun out of the chatroom(s). I'm sure we all have at one time or another. No one is perfect and no one should be expected to be. For those who have really taken the time to get to know me, they know that I was born with what is known as Spina Bifida. It is a disability, NOT A DISEASE, that effects the nerves in the spine. I know about diversity. I have battled it all my life and will continue to do so forever. The point is, we are all different and should learn to accept each other for WHO we are and NOT WHAT we are. As I mentioned before, I have been here for a few years and have become close to many chatters and have also made some enemies along the way. It comes with the territory. It is each moment that we must hold onto and learn from them. Yes, there are moments that I would like to forget but can't. They have made me a stronger and, hopefully, a better person because of them. Some people see this as a place to come once and then leave, while others, like me, have made this a second home. I see this a family, dysfunctional at times...yes, nonetheless, a family. We can rely on each other to laugh, turn to and cry, let out our emotions and aggressions, and just pass the time with. We just have to remember to relax and take things in stride. If you are experiencing problems with other chatters, don't be afraid to let people know, unless you do it in an unruly way. Talk to them or someone else about it and see if you can work it out. TRUST ME...I've been down that road MANY times. You may think you've lost all connection with that person but give it time. Take a deep breath and come back to talk to them. Things will work out in the end... To be continued? TBD